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Boys will be boys

frogWe decided not to try and influence our son about likes and dislikes. We weren’t going to encourage him to play sports, play with bugs, stomp in mud puddles, play with trucks unless he first showed interest. We just wanted him to be him whatever that was going to be.

How in the heck did he learn how to be a ALL BOY?

He naturally gravatates to mud, sticks, bugs, frogs, trucks, loves being dirty, I mean LOVES being dirty, he’s obsessed with the words poop and pee, he’s obsessed with the meaning of poop and pee and often uses it in dialogue. Every chance he gets. Somehow he developed a thing for baseball although he has never been to a baseball game. He wears his baseball hat all the time and even wants to sleep in it. If he wakes in the morning and we have removed his baseball cap from the bed, oh gawsh help us.

He loves his dirt so much that he fights about taking a bath.woods

Oh and get this. When he passes gas he announces it and laughs hysterically.



He pines to be outdoors everyday regardless of weather. If it has rained and there are mudpuddles around we have to watch him closely. It’s one thing to punce a puddle at home in the back yard but when we’re in public we have to be very attentive because he will stomp in every puddle he can. It’s not so much fun when that happens at the beginning of our shopping excursions, on our way to school, headed to the doctor’s office nor is it fun when he stomps a big muddy that splatters mom.

We often reach our final destination on rainy days covered in mud.

pigeons So where do they get it? This natural gravation to all things boy leaves me wondering how natural instincts and nature affect adopted children. In respect to this whole nature vs. nurture thing, do children develop more so naturally or do they develop their natural instincts based on the nurturing in their environment? Let’s say, for the sake of argument, that children have natural tendancies and instincts inherited from their biological parents. How important is that to them? More specifically how important is that in their development of self? If Kiwi had natural tendancies toward mathmatics that weren’t nurtured by us would he still be mathematically inclined? Or would he develop in areas where we, his adoptive parents, are skilled?

It’s certainly interesting to think about and I think I will think about this some more. Nature vs. Nurture. Positive tendancies vs. negative tendancies. So much to think about and now is the time as he is growing like a weed and he is an intellectual sponge. He learns so quickly and thoroughly. It’s just amazing what a young child can absorb.

Rock on Kiwi with your buggy friends, muddy shoes and gassy explosions. Mommy loves you little boy.

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