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Category Archives: Adoption Domestic

Balance Babblings

Well, I heard from Jenuine. And thankfully she’s okay. I’m so relieved. But that leads me to the subject of balance. Balance is hard to strike in most parts of life…in open adoptions, it seems doubly hard. Do you ever wonder if you’re doing enough in your open adoption relationship? Or too much? Lately, I’ve […]

Triad Discussion, Learn and Grow

At long last, I talk with a group of women who have relinquished children and Adopted Adults that seem truly interested in sharing with me in a non hey-you-onery-good-for-nothing-baby-stealer manner and, get this, hearing me as well. Despite their pain they treat me with utmost respect and offer to discuss issues with me and answer […]

I’m Black Too

Today at work I was talking with our HR director about all the discrimination lawsuits we have had lately for racial discrimination against blacks (totally not true and we have yet to lose one). The HR director says “Queen, you know we always win because I am the one who OK’s firing them and I’m […]

Queen of Worry…Starting at the End

I know I should probably start at the beginning, but I’d rather talk about the present right now. I miss Jenuine, Babygirls’ bmom. I haven’t heard from her since late last year. I know that things are rough for her right now, as family members are sick and hurting. I’ve tried to contact her several […]

In the beginning there was just one, part 2 and 3

Some of my friends struggled with the loss of the dream of adopting when they became pregnant. Not ME!!! I just wanted more children, preferably a whole pile. The method really did not matter. Because of my daughter’s condition I was automatically high risk. Got my first level 2 ultrasound at 7 weeks. Of course […]

Boys will be boys

We decided not to try and influence our son about likes and dislikes. We weren’t going to encourage him to play sports, play with bugs, stomp in mud puddles, play with trucks unless he first showed interest. We just wanted him to be him whatever that was going to be. How in the heck did […]

More on the beginning

This was written on March 22, 2006..  (I will eventually write in current times, promise!) Sunday (March 5th) I was in such a cranky mood. Finally resigned to the fact that she wouldn’t be here until Friday when B was going to be induced. I didn’t want to call B because I knew if I […]

The beginning

This was written April 4, 2006 I met DH in September 1995.  I knew very quickly that he was different, and the best person I’ve ever known.  We were engaged within a year of meeting, had a long engagement, and married on May 12, 2001. DH was adamant from day one that he wanted kids.  […]